I was really excited when Lily announced her book launch. This was during the time I would watch her Channel regularly. I really enjoyed the topic, as she mentioned there are not many books about empowering, modern women friendships. Or as Lily say's, "A personal exploration of modern female friendships." There are mostly children books on the topic of girls making friendship bracelets and hanging out together regularly. I enjoyed reading each chapter as she dived through all of her different female friendships for example like sister and close friends. I also felt like I kinda knew some of them because she has introduced some through her vlogs like her friend who's a model in Australia or her stylish friend, who has styled her in past videos.
I also related to her bond with her sister as we have a similar bond and to her long distance friend as I have some as well and also her work wife Anna. We all have our work sisters and then the excitement of making a new friend I have had this feel too. Going back to childhood friends. I consider some of my cousins and childhood friends as part of that mix. It amazes me how long I been friends with some of the people I know.
She talks about how to be a good friend. I feel like as an adult this can be hard as we are all busy with our own lives but with communication and boundaries set, I think friendships can work past these struggles. There are even the bad parts shared of going through fallouts and friend breakups which are the worst. But honestly, for the best as we get older we continously outgrow people we once were close with and that's okay. We are not bind to people just because we already established a friendship with them it's okay to let go and let things be. Letting go is growth if you're now meant to be strangers, accquintences, or friends again later on in life it will happen. Besides the fallouts she mentions the toxic friend. We all have had our share of those. It's unfortunate how this happens but everything serves a purpose in our lives which is usually to learn something as a lesson through karma. Karma is another word for "lessons" in spirituality and you will prob see me use it a lot as it's a word I refer to a lot now.
Then the not so serious friend you only have fun with, there are some people like that in our lives and that's okay not everyone is suppose to be a close friend you can have distant friends. Then, our online friends who we don't really see in person but give a like or comment to here and there. I think in this modern age we all have our fair share of those. She mentions the ideas of best friends and how we can have multiple best friends not obligated to one and how we can have different kinds of best friends like a work best friend or a mom best friend if you're a mom. There is something important she brings up about best friends I didn't think about before of how labeling someone your best friend can create a lot of pressure and having to keep up that image and in reality it really shouldn't. There shouldn't be so many high standards within a best friend friendship if they're your best friend then you know no need to put so much pressure on it for it to live up to that.
Lastly, she covers the importance of male friendships and that it is perfectly okay to have them too. I agree with this a healthy dose of male friends is fine to have you do not have to only have female friends. I feel like some are afraid of having male friends if their partner will get jealous, if they may fall for one, or to be known as "one of the guys." But honestly, if your partner is jealous then that is not your problem that is something they need to work on and it shouldn't hinder your friendships. You can help them work through this but in the end it's on them to grow from unless this is a friend you have history with the that is understandable. If you fall for one of your guy friends then something you guys have to deal with as remaining friends or more then lastly if people want to call you a "guy" for hanging out with them then let it be, ignorance is bliss right? Overall, I liked how she divided into many kind of friendships throughout the book and how each one is important for us as women and as humans. We strive on connections as humans and one of them ultimately is friendship. Let's keep celebrating our friends day in and day out near or far. Spread the love where ever our friends are.